a perfect friend lets you makes them pancakes. and makes you pancakes back. they do not get mad about measuring spoons and cups or vacuums or the heater or the dryer lint or outlets or oven lights or locks or parking or anything else that doesn't matter. a perfect friend doesn't change without you. they change with you. not because you are changing so they have to or they are so you have to, just because it is what is natural. they live in sync with you in a perfect flow of friendship without depending on you for that flow. a perfect friend always has a jacket for you. and compliments the way you smell. and finishes your sentences, and when they get it wrong, their completion makes you laugh because it could have been your next thought. the perfect friend knows good things don't last forever. but you should make them last as long as possible. because it is a choice. a perfect friend does not see things as give and take. they simply give and they take. so that you can give and take. and there's a comfortable balance. the perfect friend gives you a place to sleep at night. next to them. and always gives you safety. with a look. a word. a prayer. a place. a touch. a perfect friend gives you what God wants you to have. telling you what God wants you to hear. and lets you know they're doing it because God is always there. and always loves you. a perfect friend stays true and pure and loves what is good. they see what is innocent about you, love you for it, and do everything in their power to protect that innocence in you while never making you feel small or needy, simple something precious and worth protecting. a perfect friend doesn't require anything but has given so much that you desire to give all you can. a perfect friend has standards. for your sake. they trust you. they show you. a perfect friend never leaves you behind. ever. because life without you is not something they would ever choose. no matter what lays ahead. because you are something worth fighting for to be kept at their side. and they want you to know that. a perfect friend is whoever they are and lets you love them for that person. a perfect friend lets you know the things that remind them of you in their days. they are not disappointed in you. they bring out the best in you. and you bring out the best in them. they wait at a yellow light when you're following them on the road. they want your face in their mind and your voice in their head. they are not better off without you. the perfect friend understands what you are asking when you ask questions. and understand when you don't need an answer. and when you do. they give it. they do not make you feel like you have a point to prove. but understand when you need to. without ever giving you a need to be defensive. a perfect friend always hugs. they do not confuse you. a perfect friend makes the imperfect things make sense to you. so you don't feel so lost. a perfect friend always loves who you are, always trusts who you are, always protects you from what would change that, always hopes you will find more perfect in the world, always perseveres by your side, because all the bad with you is better than the good with anyone else. a perfect friend does not exist. but the moments of perfection are beautiful. unforgettable. so painful. because they are impossible to hold. perfection is intangible. perfect love casts out all fear.
2 comments:
Maybe a 'perfect' friend doesn't exist but it is a HUGE BLESSING to get really close to perfect. Katie Belle, you've been blessed with the 'very close' in more than one friend. Still, isn't it amazing how something that is such a blessing can hurt so badly. You realize how blessed you are just to have one of those blessings move outside of your comfort zone - your immediate vicinity!
Sometimes we actually lose friends - we separate physically or emotionally. More often, we just aren't in the same place anymore - physically or emotionally.
Just because someone isn't in the same town with you every day, doesn't mean he's gone. Today's amazing technology allows a variety of ways that you can still share your days and nights, hopes, dreams, fears, giggles, etc.
Besides, you'll be 21 on Friday and have pretty tolerant parents! Road trips are good! Well, road trips within the state of Texas! Do you realize that you're closer to say, San Antonio, than you are to home!
Hold tight to the Blessings, Kate. They're as close as you keep them.
I keep you close in my heart and mind at all times.
I love the pictures. I just went back and watched the ones from Rome then these again. You do have a beautiful life. Watch your own pictures more often.
By the way, you need to send me the Christmas pictures so I can put some on my blog.
Love you mostest!
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